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Relationship counselling and family mediation has been a busy area of my practice for many years. I have helped many couples in Cornwall to either repair and improve their relationship or to help relationships end more amicably and respectfully.
Please see my Core Principles of Couples Counselling below.
Couples counselling is usually fairly short term and the focus is on conflict resolution, communication, individual needs and deeper understanding of self and the other. Where the couple wish to stay together my aim is to reconnect to the love they have/had for each other and inject some fun back into their relationship.
When couples wish to end their relationship, I mediate between them to help reach an agreeable way forward, that is in the best interests of the couple and their family.
I am a qualified Mediator and I have 20 years experience working therapeutically with families.
See my Mediation page.
Couples counselling may sometimes lead to individual Counselling or Psychotherapy in order to further develop the relationship.
I work with relationship issues in any kind of relationship, hetro-sexual, gay or lesbian; married or co-habiting; pre-living together, separating or divorcing, as well as other family relationships.
Please see my Testimonials page for feedback from real couples.
CORE PRINCIPLES FOR COUPLE’S COUNSELLING
1 Recognise and modify unhelpful behaviour.
Effective couples’ counsellors can help change the way that partners actually behave with and towards one another.
In addition to helping them improve their interactions, counselling also helps to ensure that clients are not engaging in actions that can cause physical, psychological, or economic harm.
2 Change the perspective of the relationship.
Throughout the therapeutic process, the couple’s therapist will support both partners see the relationship in a more objective manner. Couples learn to stop blaming and take responsibility. They learn to connect to the positivity they once felt.
3 Improve communication.
No copy has mastered communication, we can all improve this. In couples counselling the therapist will ‘coach’ the couples in techniques that will enhance positive responses and improve intimacy.
4 Improve emotional honesty.
Couples who avoid expressing how they feel risk becoming emotionally distant and growing apart, both in their primary relationships and with friends and family. Identifying, understanding, accepting and expressing emotion is a primary counselling objective.
5 Relational needs.
Many people are unaware of their relational needs but embark upon a relationship ‘hoping’ their partner will meet these unrecognised needs. Couples counselling helps to identify and prioritise these needs and begin negotiating how to meet them.